It’s forward thinking rather than backward looking, it’s proactive rather than reactive, it’s goal-oriented rather than directionless … it’s helping people to make Positive and Empowering changes to their Life – that they may be struggling to make alone.
Just like an electrician helps you when you have an electrical problem in your home, or your mechanic helps you with your car when it breaks down or a solicitor helps you when you have a legal problem or a gardener attends to the weeds and manages your garden.
These people all have one thing in common – they take all of your problems and provide a solution… and so a Life Coach is the same – helping you with problems you have in your Life that are based on and around feelings and behaviours.
Sometimes, some people people feel their ‘experience‘ of Life in a particular context, is something they are not happy with and they want to change it, sometimes very desperately. They may be in pain and are looking for a way out to something positive or at least neutral.
Or instead, some people simply wish to further ‘improve‘ an already decent area of their Life, either way both groups of people are looking for a change, a shift in their experience. This particular group are looking to move from the neutral or positive – to positive or more positive.
Both sets of people are looking for a linear change from the present – toward the future – that is geared toward the positive ( Empowerment ) and this is in simple terms what Life Coaching is all about.
However the challenge can be that they may not know ‘how‘ to do this and invariably they get stuck. This is where someone called a Life Coach could help you to make that shift. Read more …
In essence Life Coaching is made up of 2 parts, 1 is being a Coach and the other is Life …
A Coach is someone who, through their wisdom, experience, knowledge and expertise in a particular area ‘Coaches’ or mentors another who wishes to emulate a similar skill-set or Success, or, make changes in a particular area.
Life as you know is made up of individual contexts including, but not limited to, the physical, emotional, intellectual, financial, career, relationships and so forth.
So a Life Coach is someone who ‘Coaches’ another individual in a particular area of ‘Life’, to make Empowering improvements, in that area, such as losing weight and maintaining that weight loss, improving confidence and presentation, disabling FEAR’s and phobias, improving their health, increasing their financial income, better relations with loved ones, manage stress levels, overcoming ‘anything’ that holds them back etc…
I personally describe this as a achieving a ‘Better Quality of Life’ and, you will see me sign out of each page with this as I believe this captures the essence of what Life Coaching accomplishes for people.
Life Coaching is not positive thinking. It is not just telling you what to do. It is not random. It is not intrusive. It is not friendship and it is not relinquishing control.
Life Coaching IS supportive, it IS nudging, it IS guiding, it IS needling, it IS intervention, it IS strategy, it IS revealing, it IS empowering and it IS definitely Effective.
A Life Coach is also different from a therapist ( an individual who treats psychological problems ) in that a Coach works on a future tense, a therapist, traditionally, works on a past tense approach.
For example, if someone had a problem with their level of confidence, a therapist would be most interested in why this is the case and so would delve in to the past of the individual to abstract the answer. Their interest is in the why ( why it happened ).
A Coach by contrast is mostly concerned with the future of the individual, ie: your currently not confident enough, now ( present tense ), so how much confidence do you want to have ( future tense )? Then as a Coach allow me to lead you to that future point. A Coach is more interested in the what ( what needs to be changed ).
This is not to say Coaches are better than therapists because that is not true and would be a distorted statement. It is all subjective of course, I merely wanted to explain some main differences to help those that would ask this question. Both Coaches and therapists have value – in the appropriate context.
In short, an effective and competent Life Coach will find out where you are ( present tense ) in a particular area / context of Life and then find out where you want to be going forwards ( future tense ). The Coach will then, if competent enough, draw a line between that present and that future – and walk hand in hand with you across that line together – till you Successfully reach your desired outcome.