Professional Change Coach
This is the question people ask all the time …
How do I lose weight? … How do I become financially free? … ‘How’ do I start my own business? … How do I make my Relationship better? … How do I feel more Confident or Happy? … How do I overcome the fear of Rejection? … How do I stop smoking? …
The biggest obstacle getting in the way of people transisting from where they are currently – to where they desire to be, is trying to make a change, but it never sticks.
They attempt to make changes in their bodies and in their Relationships and Emotions, they know what changes they want and need to make, the problem is the strategy they use to facilitate that change is ineffective.
Have you ever tried to make a change by thinking positive and being really committed, only to find that 2 days later you are back to smoking, or back to eating the naughty food or back to feeling lousy and unmotivated?
This is the approach people most often take, which is to put out conscious effort and grit their teeth. It can work and does work, some of the time. However the majority of the time for the majority of the people it fails.
Making a change IS easy – if you know how, right!
If you don’t know how then it becomes next to impossible doesn’t it!
Change is possible, take heart in knowing this and know that despite past efforts, the present and the future are the only relevant time frames that matter.
The way to make a change work, and last through time and be effortless, is to align your conscious wish – with your unconscious programming. When these 2 parts become unified, then they create a ‘whole’ that is synonymous with laser / intense and change happens with lightening like speed because every part of you is now pulled in the same direction.
I work within a niche area of the Life Coaching profession, I am a Life ‘Changing’ Coach. What this means is I Coach until change happens, there is no hope that you do change or attempt to change, change ‘will’ take place or – you pay me nothing! I will explain more in just a moment but before anything else, let me offer you some brief guidance on the ‘HOW’ straight away …
To make any change, and have that change last through time, you will need to go through some very specific steps …
First step – decide what the change is that you must make.
Get crystal clear on defining that change – that outcome, in as much details as you can. This must be written down. Clarify the change that needs to take place, whatever that is.
Second step – define where you currently are in this context.
Again be very specific and again this must be written down. Try to measure where you are in this context compared to good and bad, if good was 10 and bad was 0 where are you right now?
Third step – appreciate this gap between present and future.
Begin to embrace it, as opposed to see it in a negative. Don’t be Pollyanna and just think positive – ascertain to the best of your ability where you are, be realistic and be honest with your self. Don’t see it worse or better than it is, just ‘notice’ this place you are in from an empowered state.
Fourth step – align
Make sure your desired change, is in alignment with your unconscious Beliefs, Values etc… you will likely need help with this. The thing that you can do right away without any help is to ask yourself the question “In order for me to achieve this outcome, what would I need to believe?” and / or “What do I believe that prevents me from achieving this desire?” Listen ( inside ) for the answer and act upon it.
Fifth step – create a plan
To the best of your ability, formulate a strategy of how to get from the present – to that future. Write this out on paper or your device and tweak it until it is the best you can make it.
Sixth step – take action.
This is where most people will falter. This is where your level of commitment versus just ‘interest’ will serve you / or not! You must have a commitment to change, you must be serious about the change, without this urgency you will not find the motivation – medium to long term – you will need.
Only being interested will provide nothing more than a short term plaster over a wound so to speak, it will break as soon as an obstacle comes your way or you lose interest. Commitment and seriousness will however superseded any obstacle.
Other ingredients needed for Successful change include your motivation and commitment level ( how much Pain and / or how much Pleasure is associated to making the change ) and the strategy ( specific steps taken in sequential order ) you implement to make the change.
If you don’t know what it is you want. If you don’t know where you are in this context now. If you don’t know why you are making the change. If you don’t have a plan in place for its attainment. If you don’t take action etc… etc… then the ‘HOW‘ will evade you and you will be stuck.
This is where you may need assistance…get help from someone who has the answers you are looking for…someone who can navigate the course between the present and the future you desire in a syntactical, strategic and Successful way.
A Life Coach is one such person who may be able to help you, I say ‘may’ because the word help is vague and non-descriptive. I imagine you would favour someone who would deliver the change you seek, not just ‘try’ to.
With that in mind … I work in the Life Coaching profession – but specifically I work within a niche area. I differentiate myself from most Life Coaches, I am what’s called a Life Changing Coach …
What Does That Mean?
It simply means – I Coach* people until Change actually happens. After all, the operative word in the title is the word changing. I don’t ‘try’ to help people or offer ‘hope and empty promises’.
My service is simply and objectively – you come to me for a change, I Coach you until Change happens. Regardless of the amount of input from me it requires or the duration it takes to accomplish, you are not paying by the hour nor taking any risk whatsoever. The pressure is on me, not you. Thus I differentiate myself from just being a regular Life Coach.
Hence, I am a Life changing Coach and I put that in to my title purposely so people understand this distinction, and thus, what I do and what, to expect from me.
In addition, my work* is Successful Outcome Oriented Only, meaning, if you hire me to Coach you and I do not deliver the result you are seeking – then you don’t pay.
Would you pay someone – even if they failed to deliver something?
Some people say yes some say no, it all depends on the context of course. In Life Coaching the accepted norm is to hire someone to help you achieve a specific outcome / change, and on the premise that they are unable to deliver, you still pay?!
Does that sound like a fair deal to you? Coach gets paid whether they Succeed or Fail, and you only benefit if they Succeed! In fact, you lose if they Fail because your time, money and Emotion have all been wasted!
To me that is a no brainer. The answer is this is an unfair situation to the client. Period. I believe that a situation should be a win win or if it has to be, a lose lose. Not mixed.
So I offer as part of my options to the client the deal that says I deliver or you don’t get charged. It has brought me a large amount of attention over the years and thus business. This for me is validation that this is what people are after – actual change / the result.
Not the promise or hope or guarantee or reputation (only) or testimonial or even a qualification for that matter. They seek the change in the circumstance they are in. Delivering that change is all people care about from my own experience.
I hope not to come across as egotistical or arrogant because I am neither. I am simply being honest direct and open. Nor am I like a lot of Life Coaches who talk their talk, but don’t walk their walk.
I Confidently claim that I walk my talk, I don’t know any other way. I am not a good sales person, never was. I was only ever good at being congruent from very early on. In other words I could never fake something. My Life as a whole is an example of my journey where I had to walk my talk in order to create real results in my life, not just talk about them and pretend.
I advertise only very minimally in any form online or offline, yet a minimum 95% of my clients come instead from direct referral or live event attendance. I believe that speaks for itself.
People want someone they can trust, is real and can deliver.
I feel confident in my ability to help people because I have a vast coaching experience, I have worked in the service industry as a whole for over 20 years, Coaching on 5 different Continents and with thousands of people across a multitude of contexts so I have a skill set most other Coaches haven’t had the time or opportunity to generate yet.
So To Reiterate – ‘How Do You Change Your Life?’
Decide to! don’t wish or hope or try, make the commitment to change. The word decision comes from incision in Latin. Incision means to cut, so decision ( a real one ) means to cut of from other – in this case you have decided ( not hoped or tried ) and there is NO OTHER OPTION YOU WILL CONSIDER. Period.
Get yourself inspired ( pleasure ) to make the change, if you can’t, focus on how the problem is making you despair, find desperation ( pain ) from the situation, either way you MUST be Motivated!
Get a plan, strategise what when how if who or, etc… develop a step by step action taking procedure from A through to Z. Make the chunks small, inch by inch it’s a cinch – yard by yard will be hard!
Then go out and take action – I REPEAT – go OUT and TAKE action. The change you want will NEVER EVER happen if you don’t implement this step.
So ‘HOW‘ do you do all this!?
There are many vehicles, one option is to use the services of a competent Life Coach who will only take your money if they are able to produce the result you want. Couldn’t be any fairer than that!
The other options include ‘hoping’, ‘waiting’, ‘wishing’, hire someone and pay them to only ‘attempt’ to create the result, not to actually produce the result!
Trial and error, waiting for a lucky break or self-education including reading books and attending seminars etc…
At the very least, as a start, begin to make changes by yourself little – by little. Bite size chunks, don’t try to swallow the WHOLE apple! bite at it bit by bit, chisel away at it / even enjoy the experience / and from there you may get lucky and break through and crack this situation. If not consider help from someone – anyone, based on what’s available to you and how much money you have to spend.
Take away message – TAKE ACTION, don’t just think about it and or complain, be proactive, TRY, do your best and take it from there.
IF YOU DO NOTHING – NOTHING CHANGES … get it!
Which Areas Are My Services In?
Losing Weight, and, keeping the Weight off Permanently.
In Health, making significant shifts and changes to physical Energy and Vibrancy and overall longevity.
In Executive / President Coaching, providing support where Isolation and Stress can often be extreme.
In Emotions, handling Phobia’s, FEAR’S, addictions and dealing with very specific Emotions such as Depression, Rejection, feeling unmotivated, shy, nervous etc…
In the Financial area, Coaching / Mentoring individuals who want to become Financially Wealthy. At the very minimum increase their income.
In Career choice and direction, choosing the path that will bring fulfilment.
In Relationships, to Master Communication with intimate partners, all the way to the ‘boss’ at work.
Due to my extensive Coaching experience, I am not confined to just a few areas as mentioned previously, I have been fortunate to have had a lot of experience in Coaching over 18 years and in many different fields / contexts, so I am able to offer more than most Coaches who have had not had the depth of experience yet.
So what is my extensive experience I am referring too?
I have almost 3 decades experience in Weight Loss / Weight Management and Health Coaching.
Extensive Executive level / President Coaching mostly with C-Level on an International scale for over 7 years now.
I have been financially broke and turned myself, in to, a self-made Millionaire.
I have had 3 Successful Careers.
I have set up and run 8 different Businesses.
16 years of Charity work, including 12 years running my own Charity organisation. In all, being exposed to thousands of people in different contexts.
I could not have done any of this without first, and foremost mastering the Emotional side of ‘me’ very early on.
In all this time I have Coached thousands of individuals. Since 2012 my Coaching concentrated on the private world of VIP and remains that way to to this day.
For specific details about each context I offer Coaching in please see the drop down under this tab.
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To a Better Quality of Life …
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