LIFE COACHING FOR OVER 40’s
( Posted March 2018 )
Why is that when you reach a certain age the tendency for a lot of people is to start ‘winding down’ either their affairs and or their body even!
Why however do another group of people of similar age, albeit smaller,
continue to do things physically and socially and in business that they did when
they were in the 30’s for example?
WHY? / HOW?
It’s all a Mind-Set isn’t it!
Where does that mind set come from?
Society as a whole says that when you are around the age of 40+ / – 50
for example you are past middle age! or even old!
I disagree virulently.
So do the people in the smaller group who refuse to conform to
the idea that they can NOT do X anymore.
I find it hard to write the next sentence but here it is …
A person who is aged 50 can do be and have whatever it is they want – STILL!
I find it hard to write it because for me it is obvious and simply the absolute truth yet I need to include the last word – still – as it represents the distinction between those who believe they can and those that believe age 50 is time to retire!
I have to point out that time is STILL on your side – in fact – there are significant advantages that a 50 year old has over a 28 year old.
Sexual experience is one! Emotional balance is another.
Intellect and worldliness is a third. Maturity! The list can go on…
A lot of my clients who receive personal coaching are aged 50, 60, 70 and older even, they keep themselves in a place of GROWTH / CONTRIBUTION and continuing to EXPERIENCE life’s delights. They are Amazing to be around.
I myself am currently age 45 and while my body is in good shape I am slightly more tired doing things than I use to in my 30’s but – every single other area you could mention – I am in the best place I have ever been in my Life – I would NOT swap time and go back to my 20’s or 30’s no matter what you offered me and subsequently I am genuinely looking forward to the 50’s as I believe I will be in even better places.
If you are reading this and you around the age of 50 I wonder – whether your in the group who can and does or does not and believes they can not anymore.
IT IS ALL A MIND SET.
That is NOT to say it is imaginary and all in your head – it means – that it is a conscious decision you make. True, if you have physical ailments currently and or you had a difficult life in some area and you DON’T feel your Emotionally balanced or cleverer in terms of Life experience than a younger counterpart – than you may be right that you are possibly past your peak. This is a real reality for some and not something negative, just real.
Deluding yourself – is no better than attempting to be positive – about an inherently negative thing!
Whether you are in the first group or the other group – it is irrelevant because all that actually matters is now.
NOT the past. The past provides experience, wisdom, learning etc… BUT that is all. The most important time frame is and always will be NOW. With the future being the 2nd most important.
So is it possible at 50 or whatever age you are reading this, to believe that the BEST years of your Life, or if you can’t believe that then to accept that SOME of the best years of your Life – are yet to come?
I hope so. Your Life at age 50 is the same as when you were age 30 – you had Goals and Dreams and Visions for YOUR future. Now at age 50 you still need Goals and Dreams and Visions for YOUR future.
I PERSONALLY CHALLENGE YOU to think about where you are in your Life, in each of the contexts. To set some definitive plans and objectives for the next 10 years! and 20 years! if you one of the brave one’s … set a plan for 30 years from now!!!
20 – 30 years is an INCREDIBLY LONG TIME and to spend it
winding down / doing less / ‘preparing’ ( for what! ) is going to be torturous.
Things do not necessarily have to be better at age 51 then they were at age 38, for example at age 38 you may have been in decent condition. Now you are maybe ‘less’ conditioned so to speak than then so the Goal does not need to be something absurd like ‘I am going to get a body of a 30 year old’ … IF you could have the energy and stamina at age 50 odd that you had at age 40 then that is Awesome right!
If you could do things now at this age that the younger you never did or never could do! that would be interesting right?
Maybe you have the resource of time NOW you didn’t have as a 30 year old man or woman who had to work a full time job and look after a family for example, whereas now you CAN.
There is clear and distinct advantages YOU have NOW that you did NOT have in your younger years.
Mother nature did NOT give you all you possess at this moment – for you to do
‘nothing or very little with it’!
We eat the apple when it is ripen, NOT when it is growing!
We cut a tree down when it is mature NOT when it is growing!!
We leave our financial investments alone and do not touch then till they have MATURED!!!
THERE IS SIGNIFICANT AND TREMENDOUS VALUE IN THINGS THAT TAKE TIME TO DEVELOP – YOU – ARE NO DIFFERENT, SORRY!!!